Thursday, May 31, 2007

Dear K

You are growing up in a time I know nothing about.

NOTHING.

Don't get me wrong I know how to be a grownup in this world. It's the only one I've ever been an adult in. Can you see me living in Ancient Egypt or Victorian England?

I think not...

But when I grew up, I thought things were complicated, I could only have one ice-pop a day. Only one.

When it was a nice day my mom would kick us out of the house to go play in the yard. I would pack up all my dolls and play things and take them outside. There I would hide in a giant bush and live in a fairytale land. Just me and my dolls in the shrubbery hiding from your Uncle Matty. Sometimes a friend who had also been booted out of her house would come by. Usually though it was just me. I liked it there in that giant shrub because it was the coolest place in the yard.

I'm sure by now you've discovered how much I hate the oppressing heat. It was that way even when I was your age.

So last night when you bolted out the front door to see what was going on, even though I told you no, and I screamed at you to get back in this house RIGHT NOW!!! and then told you that you don't go outside alone, that is how children get kidnapped and hit by cars.... well I'm sorry about that. Sorry about the fear mongering.

But when I was a kid, no one really worried so much about that.

And I don't want you to think we live in an unsafe neighborhood. We don't. Our neighborhood is pretty nice. We know all our neighbors, even people blocks over. People are pretty nice around here.

But that guy in the old beat up car that does 45 down our street while the kids play, he makes me nervous. And so does that saccharin sweet lady who wistfully tells everyone who listens that she never had kids, but that she wouldn't let them be heathens...

They make me nervous. Nervous for you. Nervous for our family.

All that sweetie, it's just a summer day set of worries...

Wait til we get to the big stuff.

Love,

Mama

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This was written for a MamaBlogga Group Writing Project.

9 comments:

mielikki said...

Scary thing, raising kids in these days. At least your neighborhood is relatively safe, and she has two caring parents to watch out for her.

flutter said...

it is lovely that you think these things, that you care this much

Meghan said...

I loved this entry. Also, you are a wonderful writer.

I look forward to reading more of you.

Mama Zen said...

I feel exactly the same way - trying to balance protection against not making them afraid of everything.

M said...

Oh how sad and true! My husband and I were just discussing all the things we did as children("normal" things) that would be completely inappropriate now.

sybil law said...

So annoying that we have to be downright paranoid these days. Better safe than sorry and all that crap. I deal with the same thing. I hate it.

julie said...

You're right. Things are different now. Or, at least we're just much more aware of it. Letting kids grow up and keeping them safe is a hard job.

Jordan said...

Thank you for this insightful post. I'm not overly vigilant ( :\ ), and I've often had my son wander off in stores--followed by several minutes of frantic searching and freaking out. I'm always scared someone will take him.

Then again, my father-in-law seems to think that if I post pictures of him on the Internet someone's going to come kidnap him because he's cute. :\

But man, how could you have been so deprived? Only ONE ice pop?

Thanks for participating!

Corey~living and loving said...

oh yes....this says it all. I feel the same way. How do I keep her safe, but not scare the crap out of her?????
Good letter!